Ian Scheinder
The idea of spending the holidays with a significant other is like your own rom-com. The images of you guys exchanging gifts, dressing up for the parties, and the kissing under the mistletoe run through your mind, but is it really that perfect? Especially for the first time, it can be tricky to plan. You’re faced with work parties, family obligations, and gift-giving expectations at the same time.
We know you are feeling the pressure to make everything about the holidays with your significant other perfect, but the best thing you need to do for yourself and the relationship is to keep relaxed—after all you want to enjoy it!
Here are some tips to keep things running smoothly this upcoming holiday season:
- Gifts or No Gifts
Decide ahead of time if you and your partner are exchanging gifts this year, or maybe you want to save up for a weekend getaway? Psst, it’s not a bad idea to set a price range either. There’s nothing more embarrassing when they open a $20 gift from you while you open a $200 gift from them.
- Family Matters
If your partner is coming home with you, give them a heads up on any family traditions so no one is caught by surprise by whatever quirky thing your family does!
- Plus, One
We know that meeting each other’s colleagues at an office party can be nerve-wracking, but don’t calm those nerves with trips to the open bar. Keep it cheery and professional!
- Check your list… twice
If your mother plans on having a couple of things under the tree for your partner, let them know ahead of time. Don’t let them be caught unaware or empty-handed.
- PDA Rules
Not everyone is comfortable with PDA, so you may want to lay low on the kisses and hand-holding.
- Wake up call
If you are staying over at the parent’s house don’t be the last one to roll out of bed especially not an hour after everyone else. Set an alarm or have your partner wake you up.
- On your own
Sometimes it just doesn’t work to spend the holidays together, and that’s okay! Consider sending them with a basket of food or a few presents to each other’s families.
- Give them a hand
Whoever is hosting, props to them! Christmas is chaotic, especially for the host. Offer some help by picking up the wrapping paper, hand out drinks, and do what you can. It’s courteous, but sometimes it’s easier to break the ice with the family members you’re helping out!
- Arrive Prepared
Is this a dress fancy or casual get-together? Figure it out! You don’t want to stick out as the one who didn’t get the memo. Piece of advice- find out in advance. You don’t want to be stressed out last-minute shopping!
- Establish Your Own Traditions
After all, this is your first holiday as a couple. Why not start your own tradition? It could be as simple as making cookies, or a plate of food to bring to the host’s dinner. Maybe it’s wrapping up in a blanket at the end of the day and watching a Holiday movie. Don’t forget about starting your own traditions.
